I had Lucia’s NDIS planning meeting today and I mostly just spoke about inclusion.
They requested a family statement that just gives an understanding of what Lucia’s family life entails.
I talked about the fact she lives with her Mum and Dad, brother and sister, dog, cat, goat, chickens and ducks.
I wanted to ensure that it was noted that Lucia is a twin. She is a surviving identical twin and it’s part of her identity. More often than not Lucia is the one to correct me when we are asked how many siblings she has.
I drove home in the pouring rain and once at home I sat at our dining table with a cup of tea. I noticed Orlando had left a whiteboard on the table with a welcome home message and picture for Daddy.
I smiled as I looked at his stick picture drawings of us all.
I drew in a deep breath as I noticed he drew Charlize as an angel and wrote her name underneath.
Six years on and I am continually amazed at the deep connection our children have with their baby sister. She truly is never far from their thoughts and she is included ALWAYS without them thinking about it. As natural as it is for them to state their name, it’s just as natural to say her name when they list their siblings.
Our darling angel, I’m hoping Heaven is keeping you warm and dry today and that you too smiled when your big brother drew you this morning.
Did you notice that every time he visits the fridge, he touches your face on your photo that is pinned on there?
I imagine you whisper words of encouragement into their ears when they need it.
I imagine you hold their hands and lead them when they’re feeling reluctant.
I imagine you wipe away their tears when they’re upset and show them something to be delighted about.
I imagine you’re in our lives every moment of every day when we don’t even realise it.
I see you darling. I really do.
Your quiet comfort from above has kept us safe and warmed our hearts. I hope you know the enormous impact you have had on our lives.
Because of you we want to be better humans.
Because of you we want more meaningful relationships.
Because of you we will love fiercely.
Because of you, my heart skips a beat.